April 2018 Newsletter: You and Your Partner!

A Note From the Midwives:

One of our driving philosophies at TBC is this: birth belongs to families, not to healthcare providers. To us this means that we should do everything in our power to tailor the care needed to the family's way of laboring and their needs, rather than making them change what they're doing to suit us. It also means that we are not just caring for mother and baby as the patient, but for the entire family. We work hard to take good care of partners in labor, keeping them fed and hydrated, easing worries and concerns, and most of all, we care for them by doing nothing that would separate them from their partner or make their work of labor support more difficult or stressful. We view partners as a crucial part of our birth team, and view their support and involvement in the labor and birth as equally essential as any medical care that may be needed. Partners know the birthing woman better than anyone in the world, and the two of them are bringing their baby earthside together. We are all made better people by the incredible care, strength, and tenderness that we are so fortunate to witness in the truly inspiring partners of TBC.
- Eve

The 2017 Quilt is Finished!
Come visit The Birth Center & find your little ones' feet! We will be taking photos & posting them in this newsletter each month. 

Seminar Series:  Dr. Taylor Krick, BSc DC  

April 7th, 10-12pm

Join Dr. Taylor as he delves into the ways in which your partner can be a stronger support system for you during your pregnancy
"I believe that we were designed to be healthy, I believe we are supposed to be healthy, and I believe disease is an abnormal state. I also believe that every symptom or disease has a cause and if we can correct that cause, we can find a solution. That's what we do at Align."

His journey into healthcare began with an interest in athletics and human performance, eventually leading him to Colorado State University to study at the Human Performance Laboratory, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree in 2008 in Health and Exercise Science with a concentration in Sports Medicine. He then continued on to Palmer College of Chiropractic where he received his Doctor of Chiropractic degree in 2012. 

Currently Dr. Taylor's passion is continuing to learn about the root causes of disease, especially 21st century epidemics like Autoimmune Diseases, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Thyroid Disease, Digestive Disorders, ADHD, Autism, Alzheimer's, Allergies, etc, and how to teach patients to use Real Health solutions to help themselves heal. 

"The best doctor isn't at the hospital or at my clinic. The best doctor is inside of you."


The Birth Center team would like to congratulate Dr. Krick & his wife Jamie on welcoming the newest edition to their family.

Welcome, sweet Brighton!  Born at home with our Eve, Eva & Tricia in attendance.


just for dudes!      https://www.artofmanliness.com/podcast/      @theartofmanliness

In the case that professional counseling is what you need or are interested in exploring, The Healing Group offers Couple's Counseling.

 

A word from our fitness contributor Amy Updike:

Having the support of a partner during pregnancy, labor and birth, and postpartum is invaluable. As with probably many couples, my first pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experience was a little bit rocky in terms of the support my partner gave me. Sure, he wanted to be supportive and show me love. But it was difficult for him to know HOW. I felt pretty hurt during the pregnancy many times because I wanted to him to show me love in ways other than how he was showing it to me. The postpartum experience was very hard for me. He didn’t understand how I felt healing from a traumatic unexpected C-section birth, milk coming in, and severe sleep deprivation. I suffered through postpartum depression that first year. 

With our second baby, the support during the pregnancy was SO much better! He showed me love in more of the ways I wanted him to show it to me. He was supportive and involved. I had a great pregnancy. I was VERY physically active during this pregnancy and my husband and I even often worked out at the gym together when we could. This helped us to have a different kind of "working relationship". He knew what it looked like for me to be physically struggling during exercise. He knew when I was tired or fatigued and needed more verbal encouragement or even some gentle hands on me to guide or "spot" me. The birth was an incredible unmedicated VBAC at The Birth Center and he was my labor support. I know for a fact that our time spent lifting weights together transcended over even to him being a supportive birth partner. He was MORE in tune with what I was needed and just being able to encourage me more than he ever had before. I truly attribute this to my husband and I developing a relationship that was so "physical". I was very happy about how the birth went. However, he had to go on a work trip within 3-4 days after the birth. I felt sad, alone, and like I was on my own in many ways during that time even despite the occasional family or friends who came to visit. To this day, I am still scared of him leaving me after I have our next baby. Those first few weeks postpartum might be a woman’s most vulnerable time when she needs support the most.

Men and women rarely show and experience love and support in the same way. Communication about what we are feeling and need from our partner is absolutely essential. I have decided with this pregnancy that if I want him to show me support in a way that he isn’t showing me, I must gently and lovingly communicate that with him. I must voice my thoughts and ideas of how he can support me through our next labor best. And we have talked in depth about what I hope for as far as support and assistance after the birth of this 3rd child. I think being prepared and planning for that need for support is one of the best things mothers can do. If a partner cannot be there to support a new mother after the birth due to work or other reasons, plan ahead for specific family members to take turns helping. A postpartum doula is another fantastic option for those who can budget that into expenses. Those first few weeks after the baby comes are a beautiful, magical, but also challenging time, especially for mothers who have a tendency for postpartum depression. The responsibility of providing that support shouldn’t fall solely on the partner. Utilizing resources and planning for the support that is absolutely essential to ensure a positive and healing postpartum experience will create a better outcome for the whole family.

You can find Amy on:
Instagram: @fitamysuzanne  YouTube: Amy Updike  Facebook: fitamysuzanne www.fitamysuzanne.com

 

Looking for something more lighthearted to read as you prepare for your bundle of joy to arrive?

Here's a few selections that are informative but also sure to put a smile on your face- read yourself or gift to someone who is awaiting the birth of their own little one.

#joeborgenicht 

@dontforgetdads@ssparents

 @thebaddadsclub


 

Here are some TBC families, partners & new friends supporting one another in parenthood!

We love all of you!