A note from the midwives:
For better or worse, stress is an inevitable, and usually constant, part of our lives. There's no avoiding it or getting around it- only decreasing it.
There's a bit of brain chemistry that I find is particularly helpful to know when I'm working to manage stress in my life. So we have happy brain hormones that get released when we have positive experiences, and depressing and stress-response hormones that get released when we have negative experiences, right? Well here's the thing: the happy hormones have a super short lifespan. They live fast and die young. The depressing hormones on the other hand, live into a very ripe old age. Hormones associated with negative feelings live at least 5, and sometimes 10 times longer than happy hormones.
This may be depressing at first. There's plenty to shake our fists at in that fun fact about our bodies. But there's a life lesson for us in this particular part of our physiology. Here's what I take from it. Most of us try to stretch the happy feelings from positive experiences way longer than those happy hormones can actually live. It can result in discouragement or a letdown that we don't get a lift longer from happy times, but negative feelings live on and on. When we think of that in terms of our brain chemistry, we're quite literally fighting against nature to try to be happy longer. If we're working with nature and working with our bodies, then we will get much more mileage from shifting our focus to increasing the frequency of positive experiences in our lives, rather than trying to stretch them out longer than they can ever last.
We'd all like to take amazing vacations every month in order to do this, but the reality is that the secret to this tactic is in the small and simple everyday things. When I was in midwifery school (top two of the most stressful and demanding times of my life), a mentor of mine saw the rigorous demands, the oftentimes crippling stress to perform, and the relentless schedule that I was under. She taught me this piece of brain chemistry that I've just shared with you, and then invited me to make a list of 30 little, undemanding things that made me happy, to cut them out, and to put them in a jar. Every day I was supposed to take one out, and spend a few minutes of my day doing one happy thing. I looked at this with no shortage of skepticism. But I took that advice, and it was not just amazing, it was life changing. They were the littlest things: play my guitar, read a few pages of my favorite poetry, give myself permission to go buy my favorite candy, call my sister, go stand by water, take an extra 30 minutes to go do my studying in my favorite room of my favorite old library downtown, take five full minutes to look up at the stars before walking in after another late night/early morning of school and clinic: you get the idea.
Those are some of the things that worked for me. My schedule and the demands on me were exactly the same, but I and my stress level were totally different. I had more joy and peace. I didn't feel drained and depleted all the time. I felt more optimistic and more equal to my responsibilities. Thanks to the wisdom of a friend, I had found a way to easily and manageably increase the frequency of positive experiences in my life, and I was so much better, so much less stressed, and so much more up for the challenges in my life at that time.
So here's a newsletter rife with tips, tricks, and local resources, all directed at lowering stress and increasing the simple little happy times. We wish you a wonderful summer full of many happy moments on your own and with your loved ones!
Best Self Growth Podcasts
The Daily Boost
Happier With Gretchen Rubin
The Tony Robbins Podcast
The Minimalists Podcast
The Charged Life
The Melissa Ambrosini Show
Awesound with Gregg Clunis
A sweet note from one of our newest mamas (above) -
"I am new to being a mom and new to being a stay at home mom. Some days I feel like I have no idea what I am doing but when I’m around other moms I realize I am not alone in feeling this way, some have been there and all have gotten through it and some are going through other things that we as a group have not experienced and we all support each other regardless in any way we can because inside we know individually would not be able to make it alone."
Lyn Christian, Founder & CEO of SoulSalt,
Joins the TBC newsletter as a lifestyle contributor gives us some pointers on self efficacy and how to reclaim your time for a more pleasurable life. Check out her real-life effective techniques to unleash your inner self and power through your life!
Lyn Christian has been called a coach’s coach. While training hundreds of coaches, she considers her greatest contribution as those made within the hearts, minds, and lives of her actual coaching clients.
Founder of SoulSalt, Inc., Lyn has been called a Bad Ass, primarily because she is the embodiment of the principles and ideals taught at SoulSalt Inc.
Lyn is credited as a contributing author in: Renewal, Nourishing body, mind, heart, and soul, of the Portable 7 Habits™, Franklin Covey 1999; Choice, Choosing the proactive life you want to live, of the Portable 7 Habits™, Franklin Covey 1999; and Simply Brilliant, 1800 success tips and life lessons from America’s top personal and business coaches, Leonard 1999. Other writings include: Achieving Balance, Thoughts on personal renewal, Franklin Covey 1999, and Self Integrity, Identify your governing values, Franklin Covey 1999, as well as assisted with the writing for Let’s Get Real or Let’s Not Play, Franklin Covey 2000. She also created coach training for Franklin Covey Coaching LLC and Legacy Learning LLC in 2001 to 2004.
During the fiscal year 2000, Lyn was recognized for outstanding achievement and performance as a Senior Project Manager in Product Development & Innovation at Franklin Covey and attended President’s Club held in Los Cabos, Mexico. During the fiscal year 2001, Lyn served as the Associate Director of the Franklin Covey Project Management Innovation Center. Her commission was to infiltrate the Franklin Covey culture with a project management methodology. Working with the PMIC staff, she trained and coached hundreds of employees on project management. Through the efforts of Lyn and the PMIC staff, Franklin Covey quickly accrued 4 million dollars of value in nine months.
Lyn’s most recent adventure has been to face-off with her childhood fear of drowning by entering competitive sports after the age of 50. She now competes in Sprint Triathlons and multi-sport endurance races.
Clearly Lyn is a thought leader. She has a taste for life that takes her to diverse populations in a variety of industries. No matter if she is working with a celebrity or small business owner, a CEO or warehouse auditor, her edgy yet balanced approach to life and coaching is stimulating. It is this same sort of entrepreneurial spirit that drove her as a kid to organize neighborhood rodeos and earn an income doing jobs like mowing lawns and digging post holes. It is this dream-chasing spirit that drives Lyn’s work today. She is intent on her clients getting remarkable results.
With all this said, Lyn lays claim to being an expert at only one thing – hungering for and embracing wisdom and personal evolution. At the end of a week when it is time to sit and relax, Lyn loves the company of her partner, an excellent movie and a bowl of their own home-made blend of sweet and savory popcorn.
The Birth Center Seminar Series:
June 16th 10-12pm
Be Your Own Medicine
Susan McLaughlin, PT - ALIGN
Susan McLaughlin is a physical therapist, a pelvic health specialist, and the owner of ALIGN. People usually come to ALIGN for pain relief, but what they really walk away with is a greater understanding of their body. Susan is passionate about facilitating clients to tune into their habitual daily activities that affect postural alignment, tissue function and movement. With awareness, clients can create new patterns to build healthier tissues for structural support and fluid movement. Ultimately, the goal of ALIGN is to help people learn self care strategies to get out of pain, improve function, and become more vital. Because when we have the tools to heal ourselves, that is when we thrive!
Our nervous system governs everything in our body: our metabolism, our blood vessels, our muscle system, our digestive system, our hormones, our immune system, our sleep/wake cycles and more! By understanding our nervous system and stress physiology we can begin to heal ourselves.
Symptoms of a sick nervous system:
* immune and digestive problems
* depression, anxiety and stress
* brain fog, can’t think clearly
* chronic pain and illness
* difficulty forming healthy and lasting relationships
* mental roadblocks, fears, resistance
Join Susan as she dives into the biology of stress and the autonomic nervous system. When you can learn about your biology from the inside out, you can understand your physiology and not fear it. This awareness can open the door for change to happen.
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Our Nutrition & Wellness contributor, Anne Dorsey shares 2 posts on how to lower your stress by using natural methods, nutrition & self care.
Click on the links below to read on.